Dr. Wallace: I’ve a very nice new boyfriend and he actually treats me like a princess. He’s sort, considerate and even opens the door for me, particularly the automotive door once we exit on dates collectively.
I’ve been relationship him for about six weeks up to now, and all the pieces is nice aside from one factor. I are typically an individual who clothes up in present fashions and I take nice satisfaction in my look at college. I’ve been identified to buy hours to seek out the proper accent to mix in with one in all my favourite outfits.
However my boyfriend doesn’t share my ardour for trend. He clothes down deliberately and he seems to be like a roadie for a rock band. His garments look sloppy and raveled, and once I requested him about this as soon as, he merely informed me that he solely cared about feeling snug in his garments and nothing extra.
The excellent news is that his private hygiene is superb. He’s all the time clear and smells good and his garments are certainly recent and washed. It’s simply that they don’t look so trendy.
Can we have now a future sometime if we’re to date other than one another on this subject?
— I Reside for Style, by way of e-mail
I Reside for Style: Opposites entice in lots of areas. At this level in his life, he maybe has little or no problem in something concerning his clothes moreover consolation, however that doesn’t imply that he gained’t make some changes as he ages and finally enters into no matter profession he needs to pursue.
I counsel you to concentrate on his inside fairly than his exterior lack of trend sense at this level. Many younger ladies would like to be handled like a princess by a really respectful, loving man. And together with your ability set with reference to trend, the percentages are good that when you each have been to remain collectively for the long term, you’d be capable to over time gently information him to increase his trend horizon a bit additional than he at present demonstrates.
My brother is my precise reverse on this
Dr. Wallace: I’m actually pushed to maintain my room neat, organized and clear. I even vacuum my very own room twice per week. I’m a lady who’s 16 and I’m dependable round the home.
My older brother, who’s now just a few months from turning 18, is the precise reverse. He’s lazy, his room is a complete mess, and he leaves meals plates, empty soda bottles and even crumbs all over the place in his room. My mom will beg him to scrub his room, however he would possibly give it only a half-hearted effort solely as soon as each 5 or 6 weeks or so.
We each do chores round the home, however we get the very same allowance. I really feel our allowance quantity is truthful, however my problem is that I do a significantly better job retaining our residence extra presentable than he does and I really feel this warrants the next fee for me. Do you agree?
— The Clear Teen, by way of e-mail
The Clear Teen: I assume your allowance is predicated upon the chores you do, not how clear you retain your respective rooms. I’m unsure in case your need is to make more cash for your self or if you’re simply miffed since he can slack off in his room and nonetheless draw the identical allowance you do.
If you’re aiming for more cash, provide your brother to scrub his room as soon as per week for a small charge. You’re clearly superb at organizing, so he would possibly take you up on that concept. And if he doesn’t need to half with any of his cash, he could also be keen to “barter” with you. He would possibly be capable to offer you a experience someplace you need to go or present you one thing else of worth to you in change to your cleansing abilities.
When you’re primarily miffed concerning the reality he will get the identical allowance you do, maybe ask your dad and mom to supply a bonus of additional allowance that may be earned by retaining your room clear and doing another additional cleansing that your property might profit from. Be certain your dad and mom make “a clear bed room” a prerequisite to doing additional work for additional pay.
And in case your dad and mom do settle for your new proposal, you may go for the “day by day double” by once more providing to scrub your brother’s room in order that he may qualify to earn more cash doing a little additional chores.
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